Actress, Oloruntimilehin Bukola, popularly generally known as Kiitan Bukola, has revealed that her rape ordeal on the age of 10 had a long-term impact on her sexual life.
In an interview with Saturday Beats, she stated, “I can’t keep in mind what age I began taking alcohol however I began consuming beer in secondary college. My mother didn’t find out about this behavior and my father didn’t dwell with us. Consuming is an habit for me. I discover it tough to make love with out getting excessive, due to my rape ordeal. That method, I can do no matter I need. Additionally, I’ve to actually share an in depth bond with my companion earlier than I can get intimate. Typically, I really feel irritated, indignant and paranoid for no cause. I nonetheless get flashes from the incident. I can image his face clearly. Nonetheless, I’m actually making an attempt my finest to cease my consuming behavior. Folks near me know that I at all times have (alcoholic) drinks round me.
“I didn’t need to inform anybody my story at the moment due to the worry of being stigmatised or ridiculed. That was what prompted me to make a film about my expertise 23 years later. I need victims to have the braveness to talk out. The incident occurred at Oke Bola in Ado Ekiti.
“In the meantime, I had one other dangerous expertise with a man some years again. We had been in a long-distance relationship however he got here to Nigeria after some time. I had gone to see my mum in Ondo State and he was in Akure (the state capital) on the time. We spent a while collectively and when it was getting late, I requested him to drop me on the park. Nonetheless, he cajoled me and we stayed again in his home. He tried to have intercourse with me and after I refused, he slapped me very onerous. I instructed him it was the time of my menstrual cycle. However, he insisted that he wished to substantiate. He later confirmed and apologised. I didn’t sleep until 5am after I left his home the subsequent day. This occurred in 2006 or 2008. I’ve been extra cautious since then.”
The actress who urged victims to talk out no matter when the incident occurred additionally stated she wished she met her rapist earlier than he died. She added, “After I instructed my rape story on social media, I came upon that the man had died. I used to be instructed he was killed throughout a theft. I hoped to satisfy him and I might have paid him again for what he did to me.
“I knew the identification of my rapist, so I instructed my household buddy about it, who then knowledgeable me that he (rapist) had died. One other particular person additionally confirmed the story to me after I spoke out in regards to the incident. I feel my profession additionally helped me to talk out as a result of I may make a movie out of it.”
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